
Jonathan Haidt, one of the foremost public intellectuals of our time, recently published Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness. He’s a trained social psychologist, and Thomas Cooley Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University’s Stern School of Business. He possesses a rare blend of serious academic credentials, ethical sensitivity, and the ability to communicate clearly to a wide audience. In his Coddling of the American Mind (with Greg Lukianoff), Haidt addresses antisocial tendencies he witnessed on college campuses in the years following 2013. They link this to a growing fear and safety-ism in parenting. Anxious Generation continues this line of thought, showing how American parents mixed extreme fear over ordinary play with near zero boundaries in smart phones and social media usage. In Haidt’s words, “overprotection in the real world and underprotection in the virtual world” (Haidt, 9, emph. original) have caused a mental health epidemic for people born after 1995. He urges readers to release children from unnecessary rules in ordinary play and introduce guard rails for screen time.
I. Summary
I.A. A Tidal Wave
I.B. The Backstory
I.C. The Great Rewiring
I.D. Collective Action for a Healthier Childhood
II. Evaluation
II.A. General Evaluation
II.A.1. Strength
II.A.2. Criticism
II.B. Who Has Known the Mind of Christ?
II.B.1. Conflict
II.B.2. Concord
SUMMARY
The Anxious Generation breaks into four parts with a handful of chapters each. There are also introductory and concluding chapters mostly for stage-setting and summarization.
A Tidal Wave
This section establishes a retrospective portrait of recent decades. In retrospective studies, researchers look at effects and attempt to determine the causes. Haidt lays out, in one measure after another, that mental health among young people took a turn for the worse around 2010 as smartphones and social media became more common place. Here are some disturbing “lowlights” since 2010 for minors in the US.
- Major depression increased 145% (161%) for girls (boys).
- Emergency Room visits for self-harm increased 188% (48%) among girls (boys).
- Suicide rates for young adolescents increased 167% (91%) among girls (boys).
Helpfully, Haidt enumerates a few possible alternative candidate causes. Is this phenomenon uniquely American? No, similar outcomes are found all over the developed world. Was it the global financial crisis? No, because the change occurred (and grew!) as the financial tide turned. Anxiety about climate change? No, fear of catastrophic destruction is not new—such extremes in mental health did not occur during the Great Depression or as the world faced thermonuclear annihilation. At the end of the day, the reigning “champion” cause of these negative mental health outcomes from 2010 onward is the widespread adoption of smartphones and social media.
The Backstory: The Decline of the Play-Based Childhood
In this three-chapter section, Haidt argues that kids need play and they’re not getting it. Haidt makes the case that children need free play to develop bodily awareness and sensitivity to social cues. Humans are also “anti-fragile,” a concept that Haidt and Lukianoff addressed in Coddling. Much of “safety culture” would have us believe that humans and especially children are fragile. Anti-fragility is not just that humans are tough—minimally able to withstand danger and threats—but rather, we must face risk and danger or we will weaken. Human flourishing requires facing danger.
Haidt doesn’t focus on every childhood need, e.g. the need for love in the home, the need for food, etc. He’s focused on these two needs (for free and challenging/risky play) because these are the exact needs threatened by the policies and parenting styles of the recent past. With kids on a smartphone instead of challenging playgrounds, they miss out on critical psychosocial development. Meanwhile, they also establish their relational habits in the severely diminished relational environment of social media. While there remain other concerning trends facing young people in our society (e.g., the detrimental effect of divorce on children), introducing boundaries on smartphone and social media usage is not especially difficult in principle. It’s no different than adding safety features to cars or requiring motorists to be at least sixteen.
The Great Rewiring: The Rise of the Phone-Based Childhood
In this part of the book, Haidt shifts from the claims that smart phones and social media are harmful to claims of how they are harmful. He lists four “foundational harms”: social deprivation, sleep deprivation, attention fragmentation, and addiction. Anyone who has used a smartphone has experienced all of these as adults. We love to use our phones, but we often feel used by our phones. But as adults, we have a tighter grip on our ability to resist technological manipulation. This is because our prefrontal cortex—the decision making, planning center of the brain—has fully developed. Children do not have this psychophysiological advantage. Haidt’s concern is that we’ve handed a tool that has negative effects on adults to children who have little to no ability to withstand its negative effects. Worse still, their brains become shaped and trained by these dysfunctional and antisocial structures. This doesn’t mean these children are fated to a certain life, but it does mean that to reverse these effects in individual cases will take work.
Haidt proceeds to show the different ways this looks for boys and girls. Girls are typically drawn to social media. Boys are typically drawn to video games and pornography. In broad generalities, these technological proxies subvert ordinary gendered psychosocial motivations. All of us are motivated in part by agency (“desire to stand out and have an effect on the world”) and communion (“the desire to connect and develop a sense of belonging”). Men and boys tend to be motivated by agency, but they still desire communion. Women and girls tend to be motivated by communion, but they still desire agency. Video games and pornography provide cheap proxies for what men seek in agency; social media is a cheap proxy for what women seek in communion. These aren’t just cheaper substitutes, but otherwise adequate. As the first section showed, they cause real damage. If an automobile requires high-grade octane, you can’t put the cheaper Ethanol blend in the tank. Even if it might run for a time, operating the vehicle with improper fuel will cause long term damage.
In the final chapter of this section, Haidt addresses the broader question of a screen-heavy life and its spiritually degrading effect on all humans—not just children. He examines six features of human spirituality eroded by smart phones and social media. What follows is a brief summary.
- Shared Sacredness Humans have the need for community rituals, even as simple as a local High School football game; whereas screens and social media tend to isolate people.
- Embodiment Human spirituality often manifests itself in embodied experiences, especially in those collective rituals, as in (1); whereas screens separate us from the bodies of others.
- Stillness, Silence, and Focus Many spiritual practices are private, quiet, and meditative; whereas the hyper-stimulation of screen-life fragments our attention.
- Transcending the Self Healthy spirituality involves awareness of the outside world, including other persons; whereas screens, especially social media, bind us psychologically to vain self-promotion.
- Be Slow to Anger, Quick to Forgive Haidt notes that most major religious texts encourage forgiveness and empathy; social media rewards cruelty, fiery hot takes, and sharp us-them dichotomies.
- Find Awe in Nature Human spirituality is activated by natural beauty—think of temple gardens, or river and mountain shrines; whereas screens pull us indoors and away from the natural world.
Collective Action for Healthier Childhood
Haidt concludes the book with a list of practical suggestions. He soberly acknowledges that we’re facing a complex social issue. Few parents feel great about their young kids using these products, but many of them don’t want their kid to be left out. Overcoming this as a society will require coordinated action. The next several chapters divide into reasonable suggestions for tech companies, governments, schools, and parents. All of these involve reducing exposure to phones, and increasing free and challenging/risky play.
Tech Companies
Beginning with the creators of these products and services, there needs to be a value shift. All of us can appreciate a corporation’s desire to increase profits for shareholders, but that cannot come at the price of abandoning all other values. Meta’s (Facebook/Instagram) cynical corporate values more nearly resemble those of a pimp or drug dealer than concern for supplying genuinely beneficial products and services. “We know we’re destroying individual users and whole communities, but we’re making a lot of money while we’re doing it.” They look more like Philip Morris than General Electric. There are ways for Meta and similar companies to offer valuable products without knowingly exploiting human weakness.
Haidt also notes that creating age verification systems should not be difficult to create or enforce. One idea would be to verify age by mutual accountability systems like those used for AirBnB or Uber. Another would be to use biometrics housed by independent identity verification firms. That independently verified identity could be used across numerous platforms. The exact form the age-verification takes is less important. The fact that these corporations can pay nine figures to be competitive in certain markets implies that they can figure out how to keep young people safe on the internet. Utility companies have figured out how to deliver gas and electric without burning houses down. The automobile industry introduced seatbelts and airbags. It’s not too much to ask for safety from the purveyors of these information-technology services.
Governments
The federal laws that impact minors’ use of the internet are few, limited in scope, and essentially unenforced. We can be grateful that the federal government has more closely scrutinized these companies and their anti-competitive behavior. But they would do well to insist that these companies find ways to verify age. These services have measurable detrimental effects on young people as articulated above. Imagine how the government would respond if a drug did the same thing! Fortunately, some state governments are taking the lead even while Washington continues in its near bottomless dysfunction.
On top of curbing access to mature material for minors, Haidt wisely urges governments to play a pro-play role, and not just an anti-screen role. This includes creating and maintaining parks that require risk, encourage free play, etc. It also means not penalizing parents for allowing their kids to have freedom with ambiguous laws about “neglect.”
Schools
Many schools are spinning their tires trying to figure out how to handle the changes they’ve witnessed. Haidt argues that schools should increase play time and ban phones completely from school—not just classrooms. These two changes cost no money and would not create any serious unintended negative consequences. After all, most schools for most of history have been phone-free. This isn’t exactly uncharted territory. Meanwhile, most schools are dumping extraordinary resources into a mental health crisis that has an unmysterious cause.
Parents
The household undoubtedly plays the largest role in ensuring the safety of its members. So far it may have been tempting to simply ask, “Where are the parents here?” But the answer should be obvious—on their phones! More seriously, we must acknowledge that the statistics rolled out in the Tidal Wave section are so severe as to constitute a public health crisis. It’s too much to expect parents to deal with an issue so large on their own.
This section has so many sound suggestions that if a parent is reading this review and wants more, I will simply urge you to read the book. That said, there was one suggestion that seemed largely in the hands of the parent: structure your family’s days and weeks. This does not mean micromanage everything your kid does. What it means is as follows:
- Ritual helps to form a sense of closeness and identity. While having a schedule isn’t strictly liturgical, it has a similar effect. It forms a kind of inner family community. We do these things at these times. Examples of this include family movie nights, and Taco Tuesdays. (My family has a beloved ice-cream night.)
- Screen time will naturally fill in all unstructured time. Most of us adults experience this, with our phones being the first things we grab when our schedule offers an opening. Some of us can’t even sit alone for a few moments without grabbing our phones. (Try and see if you can avoid grabbing your phone the next time you’re in line somewhere. It’s harder than you think.) The more you plan and structure, the less likely you and your children will slouch into lazy screen time.
- Parents can schedule free play, where children are encouraged to have fun without parental supervision. For example, after homework and before dinner can be time to run around in the yard, play basketball, or create a new game. Although structuring your family’s day sounds like it contradicts the spirit of free play, nothing stops you from making free play part of your family’s rituals.
EVALUATION
General Evaluation
I will begin by evaluating Anxious Generation from a general point of view.
Strength: Recovering Play, Reducing Screens
Jonathan Haidt has produced an important title for navigating this new, quickly shifting technological terrain. Haidt’s dual thesis is capably argued and has the ring of truth: (a) we need to recover play for our children and (b) we need to introduce boundaries for screens both in frequency of usage and in breadth of access. Having worked with students both professionally (at the University) and in student ministries during this transition, I’ve had a front row seat to much of what Haidt describes.
Now a father of young kids, I admit that one must exert a concerted effort to resist safteyism. A lot of these anxious ideas are baked into our culture. The pressure to protect-protect-protect can be hard to notice, as it is with any pervasive cultural trend. My wife and I both were surprised at how opinionated everyone is about how you must parent your kids—or else! That isn’t to say that we don’t welcome advice, but that the way this information is shared is not in alignment with the scientific data concerning the resilience and antifragility of humans. On a variety of parameters, a portrait is painted that by a certain age, the die will be cast. This anxious parenting style is essentially ideological rather than “evidence-based.”
It would be irresponsible not to take some measures to keep our children safe, but as a society, we’ve moved in the direction of trying to keep our children as safe as possible. The amount of wealth and technology available to us makes that elusive goal appear more alluring and more achievable. Quoting researcher Mariana Brussoni, Haidt contends that we need to keep children as safe as necessary, not as safe as possible (Haidt, 81).
Criticism: On Artificial Intelligence
I didn’t agree with everything in this book; nevertheless, it’s hard to find serious issues with such a sensible, well-researched title. The only “complaint,” if it could be that, is that Haidt offers limited commentary on the in-coming flood of AI tools. Here is a short list of headlines from the summer of 2025:
- They Asked an AI Chatbot Questions. The Answers Sent Them Spiraling. (New York Times, June 13, 2025)
- Sexting With Gemini: Why did Google’s supposedly teen-friendly chatbot say it wanted to tie me up? (The Atlantic, July 14, 2025)
- ChatGPT Gave Instructions for Murder, Self-Mutilation, and Devil Worship. (The Atlantic, July 24, 2025)
- Meta’s AI rules have let bots hold ‘sensual’ chats with kids, offer false medical info (Reuters, Aug 14, 2025)
The headlines are horrific. The details are no better. I think everyone should approach these AI tools cautiously, and parents with extreme caution. I hope that the last 18-20 years of relating to titanic tech companies—many of whom are at the forefront of the AI boom—has demonstrated that they have a paper thin concern with either the improvement of society or individual human flourishing. Not to say that everything is the fault of the corporations. Like with most new technologies, Americans have been naively optimistic, willingly participating in our own demise. These companies aren’t exactly coercive. We’ve offered them an open hand again and again. But, given the immense amount of power these corporations wield, their ethics could use some fine tuning. (Meta might need to start with some “coarse tuning.”) Until that happens, the public and the individual user should offer their trust with extreme reluctance.
In Haidt’s defense, this book was published in March of 2024, which means he probably finished it in late 2023. ChatGPT was released to the public in November of 2022. The AI tsunami was just gathering speed while Haidt was writing. Furthermore, Haidt is a serious scientist. Even near the close of 2025, there just isn’t a lot of hard data about the impact of large-language models on the public—the above articles only show what has happened in specific cases. But insofar as Anxious Generation concerns the impact of technology on society, the absence of a discussion of AI feels lacunal.
Who Has Known the Mind of Christ?
In this final section, I’ll address what Christian believers should make of The Anxious Generation.
Conflict: Evolution, Ethics, and the God-Shaped Hole
I want to begin on a critical note, because I think it’s mostly a matter of style than of substance—fundamentally, Haidt and I agree about how families and communities should respond to these technologies. I also want to end this review on a high note.
In my review of Haidt’s The Righteous Mind, I complained that he constantly uses evolutionary vocabulary despite the fact that much of his talk of evolution smacks of speculation. But I also acknowledged that that this should be no surprise because Haidt is an atheist. Evolution is the only game in town for an atheist when explaining human origins. In the case of Anxious Generation, this feels more out of place for two reasons: (1) Haidt makes the case for the importance of spirituality even more strongly than he did in The Righteous Mind. (2) The urgency of Haidt’s pleas seem out of alignment with the types of value compatible with an atheistic interpretation of evolutionary biology. Let’s address each in turn.
- Spirituality Haidt exhibits a high tolerance for religious practice. He extols ancient wisdom and quotes from Buddha and Jesus. He even uses Pascal’s phrase that humans have a God-shaped hole. There’s no doubt: he’s NOT in the hostile atheist camp.
In some strict logical sense, one may be an atheist and maintain the view that religion is useful. But there comes a time when one must ask, “Why does spirituality benefit humans so much? Why do we have this God-shaped hole?” On an atheistic picture, it’s at best a biological spandrel: not strictly required for survival, but a byproduct of some other mechanism beneficial for fitness and reproduction. A more direct and simple explanation is that we were created by God who wants a relationship with us. Relationships reflect God’s own personality and so he designed us to be in relationship with him and with others. This clean and edifying explanation is not available to Haidt. - Evolutionary Contingency In Anxious Generation, the pitch of Haidt’s prophetic voice has become more shrill. He’s disturbed and angry about what’s happening to our society and especially to our children. I agree! The problem is that his righteous anger is bursting the seams of his worldview. According to evolution, the human organism is the result of certain contingent factors that have no intrinsic purpose. The various mutations do not serve a purpose in any strict sense. Specifically, our mental faculties came about due to random mutations that allowed for survival within specific environments.
Now, let’s hold this standard evolutionary picture in our minds and consider an idea Haidt never addressed but he must consider as an atheist: what if we are about to undergo a major evolutionary bottleneck driven by technological change? Those who can withstand the harsh extremes of this new technological environment will survive into the new era. Those whose psychological constitution is too fragile to handle the rapidly changing world will join the illustrious fraternity of extinction.
Despite this being an unsavory interpretation of Haidt’s data, nothing about Haidt’s worldview can rule it out. Christians however can buck this idea because we believe that our various psychological features are designed. This implies that when we go against those designs (as with the abuse of these technologies), we can expect our constitution to break down. Haidt’s atheism only allows that this is where the blind guide of evolution has brought us and that we must ward off dangerous corporate predators until our blind guide ambles somewhere else. This is unsatisfactory.
Concord: Anti-fragility and Community
Here we’ll review the major points of contact between what Haidt says and the Christian faith. Obviously, Christians can agree with much of Haidt’s science and many of his practical suggestions. But here we’ll dive deeper into a couple of notes of theoretical harmony.
Anti-fragility
There is a striking similarity between anti-fragility and the Christian concept of faith. Challenging and deepening our trust in God is a hallmark of God’s transforming work. David’s embarrassing failure with Bathsheba demonstrates the negative force of anti-fragility. It’s clear that he’d grown lazy and even bored before he stole Uriah’s wife. We read in 2 Samuel 11:1, “In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army… But David remained in Jerusalem.” (NIV, emph. mine). David’s son Solomon also grew weak and foolish in spite of having received a special dispensation of wisdom from God (1 Kings 3:5-15).
On a more positive note, numerous passages in the New Testament describe how our spiritual lives grow in the face of suffering. Although there are plenty of well-known passages on this topic (Romans 5:3-5, Hebrews 12:4-11, James 1:2-4, 1 Peter 1:6-7), Paul describes a personal experience in powerfully compact language. He writes, “We felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead.” (2 Cor 1:9) God’s primary goal for us is not in eliminating discomfort or suffering, but drawing us to himself. I recently finished a long study on the book of Job. The idea that our relationship with God is only as good as his gifts is the essence of Satan’s cynical accusations (Job 1:11-19). One of the primary lessons of God’s monologue is that Job’s greatest need is not to avoid suffering—or even to know why it happens—but to comprehend God’s fatherly oversight of the visible and invisible worlds.
Community
Haidt also extols the importance of in-person relationships and community. Christians should rejoice at the continual flow of scientific literature extolling community. Western individualism has had a sixty year run in the United States. Although other Western countries have similar concerns, it’s especially acute in the US, with its perfect combination of wealth, mobility, and unreluctant embrace of new technologies. All of these erode the types of social structures that are needed to form abiding community (Cf. Robert Putman’s Upswing). In parallel with the specific issues of social media and smart phones, there is clear medical evidence of the value of spiritual community. For interested readers, Rebecca McLaughlin released a short book on this topic just last week.
Conclusion
Anxious Generation is a clarion call for twenty-first century life, especially parenting. Haidt argues clearly and persuasively that our children need more play and less screens. This is not outside of reach. Let’s work together to see a better world for our children and our children’s children!








